Don’t you just take the past and put it in a room in a basement and lock the door and never go in there? That’s what I do.
And then you meet someone special and all you want to do is to toss them the key and say “Open up, step inside.” But you can’t, because it’s dark. There’s demons and if anybody saw how ugly it is..
— Tom - The Talented Mr. Ripley
It saddens me to see girls proudly declaring they’re not like other girls – especially when it’s 41,000 girls saying it in a chorus, never recognizing the contradiction. It’s taking a form of contempt for women – even a hatred for women – and internalizing it by saying, Yes, those girls are awful, but I’m special, I’m not like that, instead of stepping back and saying, This is a lie.
The real meaning of “I’m not like the other girls” is, I think, “I’m not the media’s image of what girls should be.” Well, very, very few of us are. Pop culture wants to tell us that we’re all shallow, backstabbing, appearance-obsessed shopaholics without a thought in our heads beyond cute boys and cuter handbags. It’s a lie – a flat-out lie – and we need to recognize it and say so instead of accepting that judgment as true for other girls, but not for you.
"I’m not like the other girls", Claudia Gray
Excellent article. I always end up thinking this when I see reblogs like that. Female competition is a horrible, poisonous thing (that I’ve only recently gotten over engaging in, and I am much happier for it).
Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.
— inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry” (via partygirlmeltdown)
(Source: thelovewhisperer, via sidawson)
Live the life you’d be envious of if you saw someone else living it. This is my personal mantra. Whenever I’m going through a difficult time, like a breakup, and I’m wishing to be the person who could get over it and move on, I tell myself to be that person. Instead of waiting to be inspired by someone else and being jealous that they’re living a life I wish I had, I tell myself not to wait for that moment and to start being the person I want to be. If you wish you were the woman who went for that big promotion, learned a second language, dumped that guy who cheated on you, then just be that person. Think, if I have the energy to wish for it, I have the energy to do it.
— Olivia Munn (via kushandwizdom)
Listen intently when people speak to you. Conversations, especially regarding heated topics, often form a rhythm of back and forth speaking, with each party starting a point just before the conversation partner has ended his or her point. I’m sure you will recognize this pattern in yourself if you think about it. Before whoever is speaking has finished, you have already formulated your response, and you can’t wait to spit it out.
Next time you find yourself in a conversation like this, slow down. Force yourself to listen to the words you’re hearing. Consider the speaker’s motivation behind saying what he or she is saying. Consider the life and work experience that has led to his or her current world-view.
Respond visually and with sound (“ah”, “oh”, “ya?”) but allow at least a second to pass before responding verbally. Ask followup questions to better understand what the speaker intended or how they feel before you respond with your own opinions.
Hopefully you’ll need more time before you speak, because you’ve been too focused on the speaker to start preparing your response.
— Chad Fowler (Your Most Important Skill: Empathy)
"If you have a clear idea, passion and energy and you follow it, you can make anything."
— Olgoj Chorchoj, speaking at CreativeMornings/Prague.
Watch the talk.
A Softer World: 1108
(razor blade beats sadness. pill beats razor blade.)
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You can never morph into Don Draper. Don Draper is the way he is because handsome actor Jon Hamm expertly delivers lines written by a team of Emmy-winning writers. You can wrap the skinniest tie in the Chess King inventory around your buffalo hump and you’re still not going to look cool. Even if you’re a handsome, suave dude it won’t work, because you don’t live in 1962. Your context sucks. Don Draper does not request extra corn salsa for his Chipotle burrito. Don Draper does not preorder Fallout: New Vegas. He doesn’t text or play Farmville or tweet about his dreams. Can you imagine Don Draper at Walmart? He would be puking blood trying to think up a way to make Sam’s Choice sandwich cookies into a metaphor for growing up, because our world is tacky, temporary, and horrid. Don’t try to force it with cufflinks, you’re just going to drag them in the ketchup.
— Zack Parsons, You Are Not a Mad Man
I wanted to make fun of stupid people while I get drunk. My two true passions.
(Source: mindykaeling, via caitlinriley)
We’re flawed, because we want so much more. We’re ruined, because we get these things, and wish for what we had.
— Don Draper
A Softer World: 1098
(when they look back on their lives, they’ll smile)
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